Wednesday, October 14, 2009

It's My Destiny To Become A Foster Parent

I'm sitting in the doctors office yesterday and the nurse comes in to take my vitals. I've never seen this nurse before and assume she's new. Usually the nurses and aids in the office are just a big pain in my butt and so rude. I don't think it's a very a happy place to work. I've been looking for a new practice to go to anyway, but decided I go back this one last time. I had no choice my Asama is in full bloom this very moment. So, I'm sitting there chatting it up with the nurse and she mentions that she has six kids. Wow, six kids is my response. She continues to tell me that four of her six children were foster kids and that they adopted them. I think to myself this is weird. The hubby and I have been talking about adopting for a while, but I was so lost reading all the literature and really needed someone to talk too. How lucky I got to meet someone who's done it four times. She continues to tell me that she adopted all her kids from the state, and it's a process that won't kill your pocket book. Her kids were originally all foster kids. Most of the cost associated with foster care or adoption are covered by state funds. At this point I'm really interested. I explain to her that we looked into an out of state adoption agency and the cost was around $30,000.00. Of course we don't have that kind of money so my hopes and dreams were crushed at the time. Now I hear this great news and I'm really excited. One of my concerns with adopting from a state agency is that these children are all special needs. I mention my concern to the nurse and she told me that all four of her foster kids who she adopted were completely healthy. She also mentioned that once she became a licensed foster care provider the calls just came in like crazy trying to place children in her home. She said she gets a lot of calls for placements of infants. Which I didn't think that was very common, but I guess it is. The nurse gave me a few numbers to call and so I did. I made the huge step and called and request the information packet and the applications to become a foster parent with the intentions of adopting that same child later on. This nurse was so nice she even gave me her extension at work and told me to call her if I have any problems. It was the strangest thing, but I think it was my destiny to be at the doctors yesterday and meet this amazing lady. The hubby and I have been trying to have another little bundle of joy for two years now, but it's just not working. It may have something to do with me fast approaching 40. I guess that I waited to late in life to start a family. It makes me realize what a precious miracle my sweet 5 year old is. I can't wait to get that package in the mail and get the ball rolling. From what I've read there is a lot to do. Such as a 27 week class to prepare you to become a foster parent, physical and a home study. I'm so ready for this challenge. Bring it on. I hope this all works out. Wish us luck.

Thanks for stopping by today and sharing in my good news.

Hugs

5 comments:

siteseer said...

It takes a special person to foster and adopt. We're lucky to have you. I have a cousin who lives in Canada who had 8 children by birth and has had many kids pass through her home which they now consider their home and come back to on holidays. They went on to adopt one little boy - for a total of 9 heirs. On any given day they have 10 children. Her four older boys are all on their own - married, in school, whatever - her four daughters and now baby son which would give them 5 fosters at this moment. She gets so much fulfillment from this and that is why she keeps doing it. Oh yeah, and she is good at it! btw I love your ecard today. Too cute.

B Boys Mom said...

I do wish you luck! I know of several family's with foster kids. What a lucky kid it would be to come into your loving home.

Lenox Knits said...

I've thought about it myself. We've decided that kids are probably not in the cards for us but I think fostering is a wonderful way to give back. My husband is not as into the idea. I'll be interested in reading about your experiences.

Lin said...

Isn't it funny how you meet people that you were "supposed" to meet for some reason. Tell me there aren't angels. :) Good luck with your new endeavor!

JAS said...

Good luck. Some times destiny does pop in on you like this. Sounds like it was knocking on your door. There are so many foster children out there just looking for someone to love them.